How to Elope in NZ: The Ultimate Step-by-Step Guide
Why Eloping is THE Way to Get Married
I’ve got to be honest: I wish I eloped. It’s one of my wedding regrets as an elopement photographer.
Seeing my couples have essentially a day (or few) of doing whatever they want to do, celebrating their union in a way that will never be like any other wedding out there, and being able to have such an intimate celebration does give me FOMO sometimes. A little.
Which is why I will forever advocate for elopements. It’s the coolest way to get married. Period.
Another thing about being an elopement photographer is that you get really good at planning elopements (surprise! elopement photographers actually also help you with a lot of the planning). So if you asked me how to plan an elopement, here’s the exact blueprint I’d give you.
How to Elope: the 11 Steps to make it happen
Planning an elopement is as easy as 1,2… erm, 1 to 12. Pretty straightforward! These are the steps:
1. Dream Up Your Elopement Day
Yes, you get to daydream! For productivity, of course. (Not at all because it’s fun.)
Approaching a task as big as “the most important day in your life” can be overwhelming and daunting. I do this quick exercise with my couples to help them get an idea of what kind of an elopement they’d like. It’ll only take a minute, but feel free to go longer if you like.
All you have to do is relax, close your eyes, and imagine it’s your elopement day. What would make it the best day ever? What kind of activities are you doing with your partner? Is it something you’ve done a million times before, like have a picnic or eating some cheesecake, or something you’ve never done, like skydiving? What kind of environment would make you the most happy and at ease? Is it a roaring beach, or are you on a mountaintop with the world spread out below? What are you wearing? Is it light and flowy, or is it cozy and comfy? Feel with your senses where you are and what you’re doing.
And there you have it! You’ve got a general idea of what you’d want for your elopement, whether it’s an all-day adventure or a more laidback day. You’ve got the type of location, the season, and even your outfits in mind, which will make every decision from then on feel easy!
2. Calculate Your Elopement Budget
The fun thing about eloping is that you get to skip the typical wedding expenses (like hiring a venue and catering for hundreds of guests) and instead invest the budget on yourselves. Here’s a rundown on what you might want to include in your budget:
Photography & Videography — You’ll want photos (and even videos) that make you feel those ‘in-the-moment’ emotions long after the day. Go with someone whose style you love and who gets your vision.
Accommodation — Think unique stays: a lakeside cabin, a glamping tent under the stars, or even a mountain lodge. Sky’s the limit!
Wedding outfits — Suit or dress or everything in between; don’t forget any other attire that you need like warmer layers or hiking gear.
Wedding rings — You could even make your own wedding bands; or some people even opt for finger tattoos instead!
Celebrant & marriage license — A marriage license costs $150 in New Zealand, celebrant rates would naturally vary.
Hair & makeup artist — Most artists would require a trial that they’d charge for as well.
Flowers — Bouquets or boutonnieres, or even fresh flower decor for your ceremony area or dining experience.
Food & drinks — As a foodie myself, I know how exciting this one is. You could even hire a private chef to take care of all your meals so you don’t have to worry about any of it.
Transport — Plane rides, car rentals, cruises, or even helicopter rides.
Activities — Will you be bungee jumping, wine tasting, horse-riding, or kayaking? Add it to the list.
3. Choose Your Wedding Date
Since you already have a rough idea of what kind of weather you’d like to have on your elopement day, this shouldn’t be too hard.
Picking a season will help narrow down the time of year:
Spring (Sep-Nov) – Fresh blooms and milder temperatures.
Summer (Dec-Feb) – Long, bright days (but also popular, so plan for sunrise or sunset if you want privacy).
Autumn (Mar-May) – Fewer crowds and autumn colors, perfect for those rich, earthy tones.
Winter (Jun-Aug) – Snow-capped mountains in South Island and cozy vibes; it’s peaceful and raw.
And as for the specific date — weekdays are usually more quiet, but watch out for public holidays and school holidays.
If you want more info, I’ve covered (very thoroughly) the pros and cons of getting married in each season in the guides below:
Pros & Cons of a Spring Wedding
Pros & Cons of a Summer Wedding
4. Book Your Elopement Photographer (& Planner)
I know what you’re thinking — photographer is step 4? I can explain!
The right photographer can actually take so much off your plate because they can help you with finding the perfect locations, planning your elopement day timeline, and recommending the best vendors and accomodations — essentially doubling as planners. So where you’d normally be picking out a wedding venue for a regular wedding, you’d be hiring your photographer.
And all of the stuff an elopement photographer does that I mentioned? Is my expertise! I’d so love to co-create the elopement of your dreams.
5. Pick the Perfect Ceremony Spot
We’re spoilt for choice in beautiful Aotearoa. You’ve got endless options for all sorts of landscapes:
Beaches – The rugged West Coast has those iconic black sands and dramatic waves, while the East Coast is calmer and golden.
Mountains and Lakes – Fiordland, Lake Tekapo, and Mount Cook are just a few stunners.
Forest Hideaways – A lush, green forest can feel like a private little escape.
When choosing, think about accessibility (especially if it’s a bit of a hike!), weather, and if there’s enough space to make it feel intimate but comfortable.
If you want some specific spots, here are 25 New Zealand elopement location ideas for some inspiration.
6. Invite your guests (witnesses)
One of the best things about elopements is not feeling like you have to invite a ton of people — or at all! You’d have to have 2 witnesses (one of which could be your photographer, or even both) who’d have to only really be present for your ceremony. The rest of your elopement can be as private and intimate as you want! (Private vow exchange, anybody?)
7. Book Any Other Vendors You Want
With a lot more budget for yourselves to play with, you get to pick and choose which other vendors you want to spice up your day:
Celebrant – A mandatory vendor of course. Find someone who fits your style, whether it’s heartfelt, funny, or no-nonsense.
Hair & Makeup – Especially helpful if you’re not sure how to get ready on your own or want to feel pampered (as you should!!).
Florist – No bouquet toss though, those flowers are for you and you only (yay).
For more unique vendor inspiration (like private chefs or live musicians) check out my list of Unique New Zealand Elopement Ideas.
8. Sort Out the Legal Stuff (License)
You’re going to need a New Zealand marriage license, and the good news is, it’s straightforward! Apply online, bring two witnesses, and make sure you have everything signed off on the day. Your celebrant will guide you through the nitty gritty of the process. Here’s the portal to apply for a New Zealand marriage license.
9. Figure Out Backup Plan(s)
We all know New Zealand’s weather can be a bit… unpredictable to say the least. It’s always a good idea to have a backup location in case the universe has other plans. Your photographer or planner should be able to help find a second spot or two nearby — just in case you need to pivot last minute due to weather or other unforeseen circumstances.
10. Book Travel and Accommodation Early
The best spots fill up quick, so booking early for both travel and accommodation will save you stress. New Zealand is no short of scenic and unique stays — check out remote luxury glamping spots (you know, the ones with the outdoor bathtubs) or beautiful rural cottages for something special.
I’ve also rounded up the best Airbnbs in NZ where you can get married in — if you’re wanting backyard wedding but elevated.
11. Plan Your Timeline (With Breathing Room!)
With an elopement, you don’t have to follow a strict schedule—yay! But mapping out the main moments will help you relax on the day:
Getting ready
Travel to your ceremony spot
The ceremony itself
Photos and any activities you’ve planned
And of course, build in plenty of time for travel, snacks, and little moments to breathe — it’s meant to be enjoyable!
12. Prepare for the Day + Enjoy!
It’s the little things that make your elopement smooth. Here’s a quick checklist:
Rings, vow books
Weather gear (umbrella, extra layers if it’s chilly)
Shoes for all terrain (even if you want barefoot photos, it helps to have comfy shoes to get to your spot)
Water and snacks (because staying fueled is key)
Any extras you might want for photos or just for fun!
And with everything sorted, it’s time to let go of the logistics and just be. You’ve done the planning, now it’s time to soak in every second! Take lots of deep belly breaths, and remember that this day is all about you two.
Doing it with and for you
Hey, I’m Shelby!
I’m a wedding photographer specializing in cinematic elopements that capture the real, authentic you.
I offer all-inclusive New Zealand elopement packages for couples who want a fully handled, seamless experience and also have options for those who love a little hands-on planning!
From finding a jaw-dropping location to recommending incredible local vendors, planning your travel and accommodation, and creating a personalised timeline, I’m here to make the whole process feel easy and exciting.
When you’re immersed in the experience, I’ll be right there to document every unforgettable moment — the glances, the laughter, the pure joy of it all. Your wedding day is about connection and presence, and I’ll make sure it feels like it’s just the two of you in the world.
You’re not like everyone else, and your wedding day shouldn’t be, either.
